I hear you, dude. I hear you with flying colors. Some girls can be clingy. You like your space, and you care about your career and your gym time. After all, who needs romance when your bromance is at an all time high?
You’re trying to decipher what to do with your life and that’s fine. Being selfish and single at a young age is vital, and many women crave exactly the same freedom. The thing is, you’re going to meet a lot of great people along the way – people who are also happy, free, confused, and lonely at the same time (cue the Taylor Swift song – but really). Sharing this stage of your life with someone special can be equally as beneficial, and I’ve found that most guys want exactly that. They genuinely enjoy talking to someone on a daily basis and getting to know another person. They like the comfort of having a cool girl to hang out with, not to mention hook up with regularly.
It is for this reason that I feel compelled to share my experiences, and notably the experiences of many other women. This letter goes out to every guy who has ever avoided a relationship for whatever reasons they want to tell themselves.
The scenario goes as follows: After a few months of casually seeing each other, the girl wants more for obvious reasons. Most likely, because she’s a human being and doing relationship-like things with her will make her want to be in an actual relationship at some point.
The boy will then respond like so: “I’m just going with the flow. I’m not good with the whole commitment thing and I don’t really want a relationship right now. I’m just looking to hang out (*cough* hook-up), talk, and enjoy each other’s company.”
Newsflash to all boys – I say boys throughout this article because they’re not men – this is called dating. You do want a relationship. Why? Because you want the perks of a relationship – texting all the time, sharing details about the stresses of your day, relaxing together, having sex, going out to grab food and drinks, I could go on. You just don’t want that damn title.